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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Team DH here. An infant that little doesn’t require much. I doubt it takes you all day to do all of those things. Cleaning maintenance only tasks an hour a day tops. [/quote]

If the baby sleeps in 90 minute chunks like mine did, the OP is getting no REM sleep and is too tired to do housework.[/quote]

OP here. My baby is a great night sleeper. The problem is I still have to wake up to pump. It’s exhausting when you’re literally feeding, pumping, playing, holding baby in carrier for sleep, and then cleaning. Then waking up to do that at night. Plus all of the other stuff. I can just stop cleaning because then things will pile up and it will turn into a fight. I would also be more than willing to happily do the housework if he spent more time with the baby. He’s spend an hour a day during the week, and maybe 2 hours tops in short increments on the weekends. I still do all the feedings, diaper changes, and naps on the weekends.

I’m a little surprised by the responses. I thought after seeing many posts on here of women who say most of their husbands don’t do anything and it’s need to be 50/50, I was expecting more people to say he isn’t doing enough. Maybe I’m asking for too much. I will just continue and hope it gets better when I go back to work. I need to do therapy so this resentment doesn’t build. [/quote]

I think the problem here is that you said the baby is very good and mostly sleeps. The only thing you’re complaining about is your beauty rest being interrupted by a pump schedule which surprise will happen when you have a newborn.

The child isn’t fussy, colic or disturbing you. You just haven’t adjusted from I’m guessing the last 10 or so years living as a SINK or DINK when sleep wasn’t in short supply and there were no arguments with a spouse that a little wine couldn’t fix.

You have relationship growing pains.[/quote]

This is rude and unnecessary. OPs husband is lazy as hell. All he does is work. He doesn’t interact with their child or do anything.[/quote]

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