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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]tell or don't tell... It may not matter that much because many people with think they will be able to change your mind about having kids in the future...

In my situation I told my wife about my "V" early in the relationship (1st month around 2nd-sh date) she said "that's fine because I don't want kids either"
We got married and a year into the marriage she started pressuring for kids. Started picking fights about having kids. Its a monthly fight that starts just before ovulation and calms down then starts again the next moth. Her mom is involved and also putting pressure.
I've told her that I was very clear about the deal before marriage and she simply doesn't care. Tells me she changed her mind and only agreed to marry me because she thought she could change my mind. We have visited fertility doctors and they said its very expensive to do a reversal and 25% chance of success. I don't agree to spend that amount of money for those odds. So now she is talking about sperm banks...

Your best be it to find a woman that is willing to make the same commitment you've made. Otherwise she is likely to change her mind because a clear agreement doesn't mean anything...[/quote]

[b]Are you a troll?[/b] I’m a childfree by choice woman and think it’s absolutely stupid for your wife to bully you like this. On the plus side, I think my no-more-kids husband should feel damn lucky he got me![/quote]

"are you a troll? why do posters always go for that when the see something that doesn't fit their world view. No, I'm not a troll. This is absolutely my experience. I suspect you are an outlier. It appears obvious to me that my wife omitted the important phrase "not right now" when she agreed to no children because I've had a "V." This was totally unfair of her. Honestly I don't know where the marriage will go from here.[/quote]

Well, PP you have my sympathy. Indeed I am an outlier. I keep on getting harassed by my stepson and his wife about having children with his dad. It’s just weird...like how many times do I have to make it clear that I really do not want children.[/quote]

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