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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“I don’t think children should be responsible for the emotions for adults” Really? The teacher is communicating to her students in words that children understand. Children need to understand that their actions have consequences. Newsflash, OP, people’s actions do have consequences and do affect how how others feel. You are a piece of work. Please, please, please bring this example to your Principal and ask for a new teacher....[/quote]

The feeling of another adult is not a consequence that should be meaningful to the child.  I've taught my children early on to respond to things like that with "I'm not responsible for what you feel."  And they aren't. [/quote]

This is an appalling attitude both to have and to pass onto your children. It is this kind of attitude that leads to individuals being self-absorbed, unempathetic, close-minded, antisocial people who care nothing about their families, neighbors, community, or humankind as a whole.

If your kid says to an adult, "You are fat and ugly," and the adult responds,  "Those words hurt my feelings," you actually taught your children to say, "I'm not responsible for what you feel"?  :shock:

If your kid makes a racist or discriminatory comment, and the adult tells your kid that the comment is not appropriate and is hurtful, you'd encourage your child to reapond, "I'm not responsible for what you feel"? :shock:

If your kid is kind towards another person and that person says, "Thank you! That made me feel happy that you showed kindness, " you taught your kid to answer, "I'm not responsible for what you feel"? :shock:

If your kid does a good job on something and his or her teacher/coach/religious leader says, "I am so proud of you," you encourage your child to respond,
"I'm not responsible for what you feel"? :shock:[/quote]

OP is making an error in parenting that will impact the kind of person her child becomes. And she is more concerned about a mediocre teacher.[/quote]

This is a lot of projecting! Wowzers. A child should never have to think about her teacher's sadness because she didn't follow instructions on how to color a donkey. The teacher could say "Please follow the directions." Not you made me sad. It's over the top and ridiculous. Children are not responsible for the happiness of adults. You find that in yourself. That's parenting 101.[/quote]

I vehemently disagree. I think it is Parenting 101 to explain to children how their actions impact others, both positively and negatively.

I agree that it is a little ridiculous to tell a child that not coloring a donkey correctly makes the teacher sad, but teaching your child to say, "I'm not responsible for what you feel" in other situations is extremely poor parenting.  [/quote]

I agree. No one thinks this is a stellar teacher, and everyone seems to agree she is somewhere between mediocre and inappropriate. But OP is literally teaching her child an icky, narcissistic reply to people who share their feelings..

There is no way this will end well for OP’s kid. Frankly I feel sorry for the kid, and not because they have a lousy teacher. Newsflash, there will be more.[/quote]

You really zoned in on that. Have a drink, dear. [/quote]

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