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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's what's funny.  I'm 22:06 but didn't post any of the other four messages you've cited.  I think there are at least 3 different people questioning the rationality/judgment of the some of the posters on this thread.  And, no doubt, the number grows as the responses get more and more unhinged.

No one ever argued for "full and implicit" trust or that it's fine not to return emails.  Concrete advice re how to deal with someone who doesn't return emails was offered in one of the posts that also argued that it's worth listening to and taking seriously the advice that you get from ODs.
The non-responsive OD in this thread clearly did give advice according to the OP -- i.e. consider this other school as well.

Any of you can, of course, choose to run to DCUM (or your school's head) and bitch about the OD and how it's all backroom deals and WTF do these people think they are and how your child's hopes are being crushed.   But what some of us have been saying is that egging each other on in this way is likely to be counterproductive and that there are more adult alternatives available (ranging from speak to the OD directly and start from the assumption that you're on the same team, to politely go it alone, to look more closely at the other school(s) being suggested and consider applying to both (or even asking why the OD recommended it and how it compares to the one you were already looking at for your kid -- that is, what would be the pros and cons if you had both options.[/quote]

When you say that we should all start from the assumption that we and the ODs are on the same team, you are saying the same thing S the rest of us. You even seem to acknowledge that some ODs aren't working for OP's interests, altho if I read you correctly, it's because OP's OD is a rare bad actor rather than working off a different agenda.

But then you start in with the insults again - people are "unhinged" and "egging each other on" and their only strategy is to "whine to the head." I don't see this in any of the previous posts, and frankly you're making this stuff up.  I see several credible testimonies on the first few pages of this thread, which I have no reason to doubt. Nobody is fabricating conspiracy theories (and I'm losing track of the number of insults), instead I've seen helpful advice to work with your OD but use your own judgment and common sense - which you claim to agree with, but then you start insulting people again.  You seem to think you're a witty writer, but because lots of us know from witty writing, just undermine yourself with ad hominem attacks instead of arguments- or maybe you're just super-defensive.  If you really want to see this thread die, the smart thing would be to stop posting your insults and just let this thread slip to the next page of this forum.[/quote]

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