Reply to Did you grow up in a neat or a messy home, and how did it affect you

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Did you grow up in a neat or a messy home, and how did it affect you"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Messy, though not extremely so... except at times when my dad was depressed and mom overwhelmed (she was the primary breadwinner). For about 6 years we had semi-monthly cleaners, and since we had to tidy before they came, the house was pretty reasonable most of the time. Before that was before my brother was born... maybe that helped us not get quite as messy in the first place (less mess, more time and energy). After that it did get kinda bad in my teen years, though most of the rooms were not call-CPS worthy.

My mom was raised in a cluttered but not extremely messy/dirty home. She was the oldest of 5 and so often responsible for cleaning and I think... between being a naturally slightly messy person, being sick of having to be the maid, and being the primary breadwinner outside the home, she just didn't have it in her. My dad isn't exactly messy by nature, but I blame his lack of cleaning motivation on the fact that, besides going through periods of depression, HIS mom is a total neat freak and didn't really make her kids do chores (and she WOH FT!) So he was raised in an environment where things were nice without any effort or thought on his part. [/quote]

To finish the thought... I have ADHD so my room was always a complete disaster, except right before and after the cleaners came, but even then like 25% was just shoved in my closet. I've worked hard on little habits, tricks, KonMari... and the house, pre-COVID, hasn't gotten totally out of hand in probably 10+ years. During COVID... the basics are always taken care of (clean laundry, dishes, trash, you can walk without tripping), but without folks coming inside at least 1-2x/month, maybe more for play dates... and with kid and WFH to juggle and DH having to be away for a few months... it's not great. Basics still covered but overall messy and a little dirty (a lot dirty in some places). When DH is around it's better-- I have more time and he does 40% of inside chores... and is an overall cleaner person than I am, if not neater.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics