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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women always vastly over report how much they contribute in these ridiculous surveys.  The studies on this never have objective 3rd parties that actually measure how much each spouse contributes.

Go ahead and ask my wife who does the majority of his work. She'll adamantly claim she does most of it, and will hardly give credit for me taking care of the yard, taking care of home repair, taking care of car maintenance, taking out the trash, cooking, emptying and loading the dish washer, vacuuming, mopping the floors, taking care of all of the finances and insurance issues, and taking care of all pet work.

Most of these stupid surveys measure things like 'amount of time spent'.  Sure, my wife does the laundry because she doesn't want anyone touching her clothes, but half the time she's watching Netflix while waiting for the wash and dry cycles to complete.  You can't do that while mowing a large lawn.  Spending 2 hours mowing the lawn is much more work than 3-4 hours of doing laundry where you just wait around half the time while watching TV.  You also hardly ever have to take time off work to do house chores, which is often not the case when you have to do car maintenance and schedule mechanic repairs for all of the cars. Why is it that I always have to use vacation time and have work pile up at work when cars have to get fixed?  Women should start going to the grease monkeys for family car repairs instead.  [/quote]

This is a fair point. I think most people overestimate the time they spend on tasks and underestimate the time their spouse does.

It was eye-opening the first time DH and I sat down to try to figure out a more equitable arrangement. I had overlooked a lot of the things he spends more time on, like finances and tax prep. For his part, he wasn’t counting all the time I spend grocery shopping and preparing meals (I do 100% of both), because he thought I enjoyed it. I do like cooking when I have free time, but it’s definitely a major chore to do it daily for a family. He also tried to tell me I enjoyed mowing the lawn, and to this day I have no clue where he got that idea or why it would make any difference. [/quote]

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