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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not disagree with anything OP has to say. However, do not assume that someone who is slender is this way because of a restrictive diet or even diligent exercise. And if you comment on my body or what I am eating, I will take it as permission to comment on yours. [/quote]

You really can't assume much of anything about a person based on their appearance. People have been telling me [false] things about my body my whole life based on their [false] understanding of how bodies work. If I don't eat very much in front of someone, I have been accused of dieting or being anorexic even though the reality was that I just wasn't hungry that day. I've also been accused of being bulimic if someone sees me eating a lot or eating unhealthy food, because they assume it is not possible to be thin and also eat ice cream or pasta. I've also had people ask me what I weigh and then claim I was lying when I told them.

The weird thing is that I have had weight issues related to my health, but because those issues involved losing weight instead of gaining it, I've been told they don't really matter or that I should feel grateful for them. I am assuming if I had cancer, that might be the one health issue that causes weight loss that people would agree actually matters and is not some kind of secret blessing. Instead I've just had mental health problems that caused weight loss while killing my appetite. Even when I wanted to eat, I couldn't -- food tasted bad to me and it sometimes felt like my throat was closed. At one point I was losing hair and had gotten so thin that I could only wear sweatpants and dresses (everything else would slide right off). I had no energy and my skin looked awful. I was severely depressed and had an anxiety disorder. I had so many friends and colleagues tell me during that time how great I looked and that they had noticed I'd dropped some weight. It was bizarre. I was so obviously unhealthy and struggling, but there were so many people around me with such messed up ideas about weight and health that they couldn't even see it. [/quote]

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