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[quote=Anonymous]Op, I dated DH 5 years before we got married. I was almost 35 when we got engaged, with a very quick wedding after.

If he wants to have a kid with you, that’s the commitment. Once you have a child together, you are always in each others lives, married or not.

DH and I started talking about getting married a year after getting together. We moved in together. I wanted kids and kept waiting for him to propose, and when I turned 34, I basically told DH you have a couple months to start trying to have a baby with me and get married or I am leaving. He finally understood that I was serious, and we stopped using birth control and he bought a ring and planned an engagement weekend away.

Almost 10 years later and DH says his biggest regret is dragging his feet to get married. Honestly, he’s drags his feet making major decisions, but once he makes them he is fully committed and doesn’t look back.

Op, don’t propose, have a conversation about the timeline, including being firm about what you think is a good timeline. I was going to walk if DH hadn’t finally committed - I was already apartment hunting and thinking about getting myself back into the dating scene, as I knew I wanted kids and At 34 I was not getting any younger. So don’t make an ultimatum unless you will follow through.[/quote]

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