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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m rolling my eyes at these replies essentially gaslighting the OP into thinking that some help and attention after major surgery or vaginal delivery is somehow not part of American Culture (TM). Really none of you have ever made or participated in a meal train for a new mom? Ever heard of postpartum doulas? In some religious communities there are hospital/hotels for new mothers to ensure they get that recovery and bonding time, yes, right here in the US of A.

OP, I’m five weeks postpartum, and COVID threw a wrench in our works big time since both sets of grandparents are high risk.  My mother would otherwise have been here helping with the house and insisting I rest, and my mother in law would have been making even more meals for us than she already has. My parents offered to pay for a postpartum doula since they couldn’t visit because they consider the help for the new mother a non-negotiable is a new baby.  Your feelings and expectations are valid, and it’s absolutely reasonable to discuss these with your husband who needs to be the cruise director here.[/quote]

Lol you have to HIRE a post party doula and they’re not cheap. Isn’t that proving the point? Used to be your mom, MIL, aunts, godmother, etc. who would have done that stuff for you. Other countries pay for it through taxes.[/quote]

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