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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please read this post as trying to be helpful as we battled similar and I finally feel like we have a great balance. I don't want to come across as a know-it-all.

Here is our set-up. We have a 2.5yo and I'm pregnant with number 2.

-DH works full time from home indefinitely now. Cutting out his commute has allowed him an extra hour-hour and a half with us per day which is great!
-I work from home part time and make my own schedule but roughly averages to 25 hours per week.
-We have childcare 12 hours per week (3 mornings) to cover half my schedule. The other 12ish hours I make up during naps, after bedtime, and on weekend mornings.
- I do all of my laundry and child-related laundry, I've never touched DH's.
-I do all of the day to day cleaning (sweeping, wiping counters, dishwasher, toilets, swiffer, etc). DH spends and hour every Sunday washing the floors.
-We have a lawn/leave service
-I cook dinner every other night, but make enough for 2 nights. DH cleans up dinner every night.
-Dh does all of DD's nightly baths. It's their special time when he gets off work everyday.
-We take a 1 hour family walk every night before doing bedtime which has been a great time to catch up and all bond
-I do all logistics to DD (appointments, seasonal clothes, diapers, etc)
-DH does all logistics for the dog (buying food, vet, tick prevention, heart worm meds, etc)

Somehow this leaves Dh and I spending quality time together most nights 8-10pm which we both really value.

Obviously our world is about to be shaken up with baby 2 lol[/quote]

I’m glad that you have a nice set up, but — and this is a big BUT — things are exponentially more difficult with 3 children. In my circles, the third child is usually when the mom starts stops working because they cannot take it anymore. It’s fairly easy to divide tasks with one child, still doable with 2 and complete insanity with 3. Many men have a ceiling of how much they will help, regardless of how much work needs to be done. It’s the “I’ll do my best and she’ll do the rest” attitude that really makes 2 working parents untenable for  bigger families. [/quote]

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