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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I’m sure you aware you have several things that need to be addressed about your husband and your marriage.

But I think a simple solution is to have a flat rate of “fun money” for each of you per month.  Each person gets to spend $500 (or whatever number you think is right) per month on themselves, the rest, no matter what that number is, gets put into joint savings.  If one of wants more fun money for the month, it needs to be agreed upon by the other person.  [/quote]

I like this. Thank you.
May I ask a follow up question? Would you consider an additional car note part of that fun money? DH bought a car that he does not need and I don't think should be included in any calculations for core household expenses.[/quote]

Oh man.  That is tricky.  Buying a car should be a joint decision, not an impulse purchase.  If he didn't already have the car, but wanted it as a "fun" purchase then I would have said, as long as he can cover it with his "fun" money.

But I guess that shipped has sailed.  Is it leased or did he take out a loan? Since he already has it and you haven't set your fun money amount yet, I think if the car note is under 50% of the fun money amount, then he has to use that money on the note.  If it is over 50%, then I would push him to sell it.  That is crazy he decided to buy a car that he couldn't afford to pay cash for AND didn't even need.  I would be fuming about that.  To be honest, he sounds terrible with money and I would try to encourage him to take a money management class with you.  Otherwise, your marriage and your personal financial livelihood is headed toward disaster.  [/quote]

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