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[quote=Anonymous][quote]if u want to spend money then get a job and spend your money.[/quote]

she is working. She is both housekeeping and nanny to four kids. There are no cleaners here , no babysitters, and no childcare. Her services would be worth more than 50k/year (esp if you count overtime).

OP you are not going to get anywhere on the working long hours front. But the financial disparity is not okay, especially when you have plenty of money.  And its not just disparaity--basicallly he is saying that only his needs and desires are valid and he dismisses yours. That's...not okay.

He does not get to make 100% of the decisions about how you live as a family and does not get to veto things. I mean, even with the house, you spend much more time in in a (and presumably clean it etc) than he does, so why does he get to veto a new home? Seems to me that you shoul dbe able to talk with a financial advisor together (yes he is in finance but you need someone to lay out what the reality is of your finances, he seems to want to accumulate wealth at the expensive of living).  Honestly, I think you need to have a serious talk and a couple sessions with a therapist to work this out. Otherwise, the options are you get a teaching job and he is responsible for 50% of the childcare; you separate and suddenly both his time and money will be cut in half. Or, he can be reasonable about spending XX on some vacations (with or without him), a new home, and cleaners. 
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