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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t have friends who would speak to me like that. You have a friend problem not a SAHM problem. [/quote]
This.  OP, the mommy wars are for the Internet. If you're experiencing them in real life, you need new friends.[/quote]

Agreed.  Maybe you should set up some playdates with their awesome, professional nannies.  They might be nicer people, and [b]they might get into the weeds with you on this parenting thing[/b][/quote]

See, OP?  Gratuitous SAHM judgmental comments.  They're out there too![/quote]

How is that judgmental?  
[b]OP said that she was upset that her friends wouldn't get into the weeds with her on the day to day parenting stuff.[/b]  That's rough.  
Her friends are also kind of crappy and judgmental.  She might find better friends with their nannies.  [/quote]

First of all, no she didn't say that.  She never said she wanted her friends to get into the weeds with her and they won't, she said she feels like they're judging her parenting when they talk about parenting issues.

Secondly, saying that nannies are more in the weeds of parenting than WOHMs is gratuitously judgmental, and crappy while we're at it.  [/quote]

From the OP:
[b]"I don't expect my WOHM friends to get into the weeds with me on certain parenting things, and I've gotten used to using blogs and podcasts for that stuff."[/b]

And I thought you were accusing me of judging SAHMs.  I didn't even realize I was being accused of judging WOHMs.  I guess this shows you how much baggage we all carry in to these mommy wars.  It's kind of depressing.

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DP. As a former SAHM, I read both you and OP as judging WOHMs with those quotes. FWIW.[/quote]

I am OP. What I meant is that when you SAH, sometimes you need ideas for how to keep your kid occupied all day everyday, or ideas for snacks that pack well, or other things that someone whose kid is in daycare might not think much about. It wasn't a slight on WOHMs or a commentary on their parenting. It's a recognition that my friends with jobs probably do not want to spend time discussing story time schedules or the benefits of napping at home versus napping on the run. But I do have to deal with that stuff. I probably would not enjoy discussing daycare payment policies either.[/quote]

You’re dismissing them as parents And having a shared experience in general because they work out of the home. Do you think that a WOH parent never has to amuse their kid all day (hint: most jobs are only 5 days a week). You may have more in common about naps too as even parents who work have places they want to be on the weekend, and are bound to nap schedules and it’s a pain no matter what you do. They also probably have to feed their kids on the go, and pack snacks and lunches for various reasons.

Parenting is parenting OP, whether you work outside the home or not. WOH parents are still parents, and have to think about nap times, snacks, And keeping their kid busy too. Maybe they don’t do it in the level that you do, but they also do it on a different level and may have ideas that work for you BECAUSE they have different challenges, or the same challenges, just in a different way.  [/quote]

Wow this is so much. OP said she doesn't expect her WOHM friends to "get into the weeds with her on [b]certain[/b] parenting things." That's it. She didn't say she never talks to them about parenting, just that she knows that some stuff is not going to be as interesting to them. Which is true.

Also, and I know this will offend some people, but I agree with OP that getting unsolicited advice about parenting from WOHP is annoying if you are SAH. I don't get offended by it, but I pretty much always disregard it. The idea that someone whose kids are in full-time daycare or who has a full-time nanny would be able to give me advice on day-to-day parenting stuff is silly. They just don't have the hours. It's one thing if it's like "I bought this product and it's useful." But if a WOHM tries to explain to me how to potty train or adjust a nap schedule? Girl, I know your nanny is doing 80% of that for you. I humor them, but no.[/quote]

You are going to really struggle with teenagers.[/quote]

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