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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The ones that I’ve seen fail were because the spouse had a chip on their shoulder regarding race.  It was magnified when it came time to raise the kids.[/quote]

I'm a Indian person who has been in two long relationships with white men, and I can both see how it would fail, and why they might be stronger.

1 -- first relationship, in our twenties, he was at first really into the exoticness but at some point I think he found himself really uncomfortable with the "otherness." exotic turned to strangeness. he ended up marrying another white person who is from a very similar background.

2 -- next relationship, which is my marriage, my husband is white but also an immigrant. we talked up front about cultural differences and figured out a way to talk about it all respectfully, respect each other's need to follow certain cultural norms or reject others, to question assumptions in a respectful way.

I knew it was a potential point of discomfort so I knew that we needed to learn how to talk it out, and our whole relationship really benefitted. 11 years married and going strong... kids, in-laws all in harmony. [/quote]

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