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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just to present the other perspective: I am part of a blended family. My dad married my step mother when I was almost 9 and my step-siblings were 9 and 4. My dad and step mother had another kid at basically the same time they got married. Custody was 60 (mom)/40 (dad) for me and 50/50 for my step-sibs and arranged so we were all at my dad/step mom's at the same time as much as possible. It all worked fine. There were some issues, but nothing of a different level of seriousness or intractability than any other family would have. I got along very well w/ my same aged step sibling and my much younger half sibling and not so well w/ my younger step sibling, but for very normal sibling-esque reasons. As adults, we're all sort of cousin-y in closeness, but get along perfectly well. I got along fine but not great w/ my step mother growing up, but she's a fantastic grandmother to my kids (who call her grandma and don't see her as any different than their other two grandmas).[/quote]

My next door neighbors had a blended family that worked.  Each parent was a young widow/widower with three children.  Each parent had 3 kids.  Don married Betty
and all 6 kids moved in together.  Both Don and Betty made a huge effort to make each kid be part of the big family.  All kids are grown now. I believe some kids
are closer to their step siblings today than their bio siblings.

Both Don and Betty both told me there were rough times however.  They were from a generation that made marriages work.[/quote]

I think it is a bit different when the parents are widowed, instead of divorced.   There is no "other parent" in the picture.[/quote]

Yes.  I mean, death of a parent can be a major trauma, but there is no custody shuffle and no having to coordinate schedules and parenting across three households.  It is a different kind of situation.[/quote]

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