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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Blended families dont really work. You can still date this person and parent/live separate.

Just for starters my mom remarried at near 40, my brothers and I were 3, 12, and 17. My step sister was 11. My brother and step sister ended up having a child, which was given up for adoption when they were 16 and 15, respectively. My youngest brother hates my stepdad with the fury of 1000 suns. My step-sister went on to have 2 more kids before 21. My brother is an addict and carries serious guilt (that their kid was adopted, that my mom and stepdad had problems after that, etc.). My step sister is supported with childcare and financially by my mom and stepdad but we are not. It is very clear that my brother and I get one half (to then share thirds) and my stepsister gets the other half.  It is so blatant that they have offered to pay for her to go to school, but my brothers and I took out loans. They bought an investment property that she and her kids live in with rent reduced to 2/3 of market rate. When I bought a house, they did nothing- not even a Home Depot gift card.

They still try to do family holidays and it sucks. I just want to spend time with my mom and brothers. I really dislike my stepsister and my stepdad is annoying. She had 3 kids to take care of after living with a chaotic and verbally abusive father, but she chose him over us. [/quote]

No offense OP, but this sounds like 100x more drama than a "normal" blended family. [u]And not how most parents would treat their children.[/u] Also - very odd that your siblings had a baby together, clearly weird family dynamics.[/quote]

I think this happens more than we know and has since the beginning of time. It certainly isn't publicized.  Daughter is taken for abortion or baby is given up for adoption. Back in the old days the daughter would be sent to a home for unwed mothers and then sometimes the daughter and baby would come home after birth and the baby would be raised
as a sister to the daughter that gave birth. I know of two of these situations in which the baby did not know her sister was actually her mother until late in life.

You are correct but there is the potential. You have two [u]unrelated[/u] kids constantly being together during a very precocious time. [/quote][/quote]

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