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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Of course, they have the right to move anywhere. However, to move into town unannounced and with no previous discussion is rude. They sound like they cannot pick up on social clues. I feel bad for OP. All of you other critics out there probably never had a situation like this one.  OP has the right to feel the way she does. She also had the right to live her family life without in-laws breathing down her back.  Been there done that, so I know.[/quote]

Thank you for understanding. Some people are so cruel on this forum. Which is not what I was expecting. I really appreciate your message. The first part is all I'm asking for a discussion of expectations, time frame etc ...so I'm not blindsided because at the end of the day our life will change. They are very introverted and not social...they aren't moving here for any other reason but us so it will change my life. I worry because my husband is so sweet and never wants to upset his mom, which is beautiful, but she manipulates him with ultimatums to get his way and he just always backs down. He is working on being more firm, I'm working on being more flexible...it just seems like they take take take and don't even realize how much it hurts both of us. I love my family and have always had great relationships with my friends and boyfriend's families...they are just so different. It's hard to explain. The amount of judgment is crazy. So much hate. I can't be around that much negativity for that long, nor so I want our kids to be around that much hate. The comments she makes are just so ridiculous. I believe in diversity and she doesn't, it's all 100% Christian or devil in her mind. Which is just extreme, my best friend is devout in another religion and she commented that they can't be kind if they are not Christian. I just don't want that type of energy around my kids. [/quote]
You have a husband problem, not a  an in-law problem.[/quote]

[b]Yup, Op probably chose her DH because he goes along with whatever she wants and she’s shocked that he does the same with his mom.[/b][/quote]
Ding ding ding we have a winner. OP you have lots of useful advice here on setting boundaries with in-laws do so while being kind to your families. You married your sweet DH  and poor guy stuck between 2 manipulative women.[/quote]

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