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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I sleep in the guest room because: a) I sleep better; and b) I can masturbate in peace.

I used to endure the trouble I have falling asleep in the hopes that being in the bedroom would help our sex life. But it didn't. (Once every 4-6 weeks before, same after.)

I know my wife would like me to sleep in bed with her, but overall our marriage is better if I'm better rested & not sexually frustrated. [/quote]

Wow, this is so dead on to my marriage I thought I wrote it. I tried to make it a habit of going back to sleep with my wife but all it led to was sexual frustration a d resentment. So back to the guest room for me[/quote]

In all seriousness, this is exactly it.  My DW and I have had issues with sex lately to the point where I'm lucky if it happens 1x month.  She's borderline asexual and never initiates.  Going to bed is fraught with issues - it's depressing/frustrating getting into bed with her b/c there is no chance for sex even when I'm crazy for her.  I can see how sleeping in a guest bedroom would help in that regard but it's certainly not a long term solution[/quote]
^^ all 3 of you PPs:  Your problem isn't your choice of bedrooms. Your problem is calling somebody a "wife" who doesn't want sex with you. The proper word for that is a "room mate". And the normal/healthy solution to sexual frustration is then you go find a "girlfriend". [/quote]

I'm one of the PPs - you're wrong. I was pretty unhappy for awhile there, but now I'm in my 50s and my libido isn't so urgent. I'm pretty content with my wife and intact family. [/quote]

I am another of the PPs.  I had an affair, and I can tell you they are not all fun and roses. If all you are looking for is sex, it's a massive headache with all the sneaking around and the constant disappointed AP who always wants more from you.

I am late 40s and like PP said my libido has slowed from sex being an obsession to it just being a need and not worth cheating over.  Perhaps we amicably divorce at some point if we can't find a compromise but my wife is very content with celibacy[/quote]

Why did you bother sneaking around? And if being celibate is no big deal then why did you post on this thread in the first place?[/quote]

I snuck around because I was in my 30s and sex was a much bigger deal than it is now.  I would do it again but affairs are a lot more work and headache and heartache than younthink[/quote]

You completely missed the point. Don’t “sneak” just go out and have sex! Affairs are no more work than having a successful romantic relationship with your wife. So if the wife wants to be a sexless room mate you simply redirect 100% of those romantic efforts towards the other woman. Sounds like you are both low drive and low effort which is not an attractive combination and no wonder your wife is uninterested. Again your issue has nothing to do with which bedroom you sleep in. [/quote]

If you’re going to continue to post this drivel, please learn that “roommate” is one word.[/quote]

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