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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I sleep in the guest room because: a) I sleep better; and b) I can masturbate in peace.

I used to endure the trouble I have falling asleep in the hopes that being in the bedroom would help our sex life. But it didn't. (Once every 4-6 weeks before, same after.)

I know my wife would like me to sleep in bed with her, but overall our marriage is better if I'm better rested & not sexually frustrated. [/quote]

Wow, this is so dead on to my marriage I thought I wrote it. I tried to make it a habit of going back to sleep with my wife but all it led to was sexual frustration a d resentment. So back to the guest room for me[/quote]

In all seriousness, this is exactly it.  My DW and I have had issues with sex lately to the point where I'm lucky if it happens 1x month.  She's borderline asexual and never initiates.  Going to bed is fraught with issues - it's depressing/frustrating getting into bed with her b/c there is no chance for sex even when I'm crazy for her.  I can see how sleeping in a guest bedroom would help in that regard but it's certainly not a long term solution[/quote]
^^ all 3 of you PPs:  Your problem isn't your choice of bedrooms. Your problem is calling somebody a "wife" who doesn't want sex with you. The proper word for that is a "room mate". And the normal/healthy solution to sexual frustration is then you go find a "girlfriend". [/quote]

I'm one of the PPs - you're wrong. I was pretty unhappy for awhile there, but now I'm in my 50s and my libido isn't so urgent. I'm pretty content with my wife and intact family. [/quote]

I am another of the PPs.  I had an affair, and I can tell you they are not all fun and roses. If all you are looking for is sex, it's a massive headache with all the sneaking around and the constant disappointed AP who always wants more from you.

I am late 40s and like PP said my libido has slowed from sex being an obsession to it just being a need and not worth cheating over.  Perhaps we amicably divorce at some point if we can't find a compromise but my wife is very content with celibacy[/quote]

Why did you bother sneaking around? And if being celibate is no big deal then why did you post on this thread in the first place?[/quote]

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