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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. So I spoke to my bio dad and he told he thinks it’s better that we part ways. He insisted that his wife had nothing to do with it and says he just cannot be a father to me in the ways I am seeking e.g. grandfather to my future kids, vacationing together. I feel like he owes me though, because if he hadn’t had that fling with my mom, I wouldn’t have existed and now I have no family except for my mom. Anyone else ever dealt with this? [/quote]

He doesn't owe you anything.  You had a father, who raised you.  It's sad that he died, but no one owes you a replacement father.  Vacationing together?  Calling or texting every day, wanting to move to their city?  Too much.  Way too much, and your father is probably right to cut things off because you are asking too much.  He he doesn't want to start being your father now that you are in your 30s, he doesn't want to be a grandfather to your kids, he doesn't want to go on vacations with you, he doesn't want to communicate with you daily.  He is your father only in the most technical sense.  Your father is dead, and you should just grieve him and remember him and not try to replace him with someone who is functionally a sperm donor.

Repeat: he doesn't owe you anything.  [/quote]

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