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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, my husband is a cancer survivor, and we received NO help (as in none at all, not once, not even sitting with him during a single chemo session or visiting him in the hospital) from his family, including his sister who lived in DC at the time.  His mom, who was retired but still fairly young, did not even offer to help.  A number of friends just... stopped calling and never came back.

I do not forgive these people and never will, but what I have realized is that some people get scared and frozen in the face of bad news, and are completely unequipped to help out.  They just disappear.  Sounds like this might be what is going on with the MIL. [/quote]

I am so sorry you and your husband went through his cancer on your own.  I would not be able to forgive and forget, either.

I cannot believe some of the responses that OP is getting her validating her callous disregard for a family member in need.  It is sick.  And the person going on and on about how the SIL should take an Uber after getting chemo...  I try not to wish bad things on people but her continual posting about it is really challenging me in this regard.

It is funny.  I posted elsewhere on this thread and the content of my post stood out to a friend.  When we were talking about it today she said that (hypothetically) if one of our friends was going through the same challenge, needing to travel one day a week to help the sick family member, that the rest of us would probably not only do a food train to cover that one night when she would be gone but also cook foods for her to take and put in her SIL's freezer.  That's how members of a community act when one member of the community needs help and support.[/quote]

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