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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I say this gently -  I agree with the posters suggesting that we do a better job teaching resilience.  Most of the people posting likely have secure housing and plenty of food.  We aren’t being invaded by zombies or suffering from the effects of war.  This sucks for all of us.  Your children will likely follow your lead.  If you can remain optimistic and calm during this storm, they will as well.

If it’s a true mental health issue, then of course, call a psychiatrist.  Otherwise, encourage your kids to learn independently.  My youngest is a senior.  He is working on his EMT certification.  That’s keeping him engaged and providing him the opportunity to give back to his community.  He is also practicing yoga and hiking. My older kids are feeling the effects as well.  Some handle it better than others.  But all of them see their parents remaining calm and centered. That’s the most important piece. [/quote]

jerk[/quote]

Truly curious.  How does my response make me a “jerk”?  This is hard on all of us.  Some are suffering more than others.  Panic, despair, and anger don’t help us solve problems.  Many of the kids I see having the toughest time with this are the ones whose parents are angry, defensive, and scared. This is the time to pause, breathe, and solve problems from a place of calm. [/quote]

“Calm” doesn’t solve the mental distress that some (most?) teens have during this. As I’ve said before, “suck it up” is not a treatment for anxiety and never will be. [/quote]

Calm solves a lot.  A calm, peaceful home with parents who are not reacting in fear most certainly helps teens.  I did not suggest only calm.  I gave an example of what my youngest is doing - EMT training.  My older children are most certainly feeling anxiety.  I can help them most by encouraging them to remain in the calm center of this crazy storm.  I think my 26 year old is struggling the most.  She is a special ed teacher worried about her kids.  She has no idea what the school year will look like. When she calls me upset and stressed, the best thing I can do is encourage her to breathe, meditate, practice self-care.  And trust that this will end.  I’m not a “jerk”.  I just refuse to get pulled into the storm.  [/quote]

OMG.

I sincerely hope your child has someone else she can turn to other than you if she experiences mental health struggles.

You are awful.[/quote]

I think you would like me if you knew me.  Most people do.  I’m not “awful”.  I’m sure you are not either.  Wishing you a peaceful, productive day. [/quote]

That didn't read to me like a jerk response. PP, I have no issue with what you wrote. You acknowledged that mental health care might be warranted, but that kids will follow our lead in demonstrating calm. I'm ok with that and what you suggested did not seem to lack compassion.[/quote]

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