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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husbands ex was a SAHM. When kids went to school, he tried to get her to go back to work. She refused. They had many issues, and her refusing to work was a sore spot with him.  His mom worked, and her mom worked, so his norm was a working mom.  She went back to college, graduated, then got a part time job. She didn’t like it so she quit. And that was it.  He left.  They were married a total of 13 years - to include time separated pending divorce.
I met him post divorce. He lived in a tiny one bedroom apartment. He was paying 65% of his income to her.  I get supporting the kids, but it really hurt that he had to continue supporting someone who had refused to work. She also told the kids he wasn’t giving her enough, and that is why they had to move. They moved because she wanted to move closer to her boyfriend.Ultimatly, she got a job and from what I can tell is successful.
Kids are grown now. She gets part of his retirement. 
She’s been with the same boyfriend as long as my husband and I have been together - which is longer than they were married. They will never get married because she doesn’t want to lose part of his retirement. 
So, from my POV, husbands Often get screwed in divorce.[/quote]
This kind of absurd injustice would not happen any more. A lazy spouse who refuses to work, or who works part time or takes some unnecessarily low paying job, will have their theoretical fair-market-value income imputed by a judge before applying the child support formulas. Of course CS stops when child turns 18. And forget about spousal support because that is no longer a "thing".

Some fractional shared retirement benefits sounds reasonable, limited to the portion that was accrued during their marriage. That is a deferred "marital asset" which could not otherwise be split 50/50 at time of divorce.[/quote]

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