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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let him file. Then fight him tooth and nail for full custody and every penny you can squeeze out of him. Sounds like a loser anyway. You will be fine. Oh, and line up a date as soon as possible and rub his face in it. [/quote]

WTF?

It sounds like the DH is being reasonable. If they have 50/50 custody and similar incomes, OP might not even qualify to receive  child support.

If you’re both reasonable, you can probably save a ton on lawyers and just use a mediator. If you push for crazy things like full custody, don’t be surprised if he fights back. The lawyers will be the only ones who win in that situation. I also think it’s interesting that your son chose to stay with his dad instead of joining you on your weekend trip. Could the son be a lot more introverted (like his father) than you’d care to admit? Maybe if 50/50 custody isn’t on the table he would chose to live with his dad instead of OP... Then she’s stuck never seeing her kid and paying child support. Don’t be stupid and don’t try to push your luck. [/quote]

Op here.

That is what he wants to do, avoid using attorneys to save on legal fees to pay down debt instead.

He has always been reclusive. The more time he spent with my family though, the less he wanted to. [b]He said he feels like there’s no joy in our marriage. [/b]It was our sixth wedding anniversary a few weeks ago. He had a big breakfast spread for me and a card with flowers. I didn’t get him anything in return because we said we weren’t doing gifts.

He then was upset today that [b]I am able to plan our my nieces and nephews birthdays [/b]but apparently "do nothing" for him. I think he is a borderline narcissist because he sets me up for things like that.

And for the record, his family isn’t perfect and HIS parents are also alcoholics. That’s why he never sees them. [/quote]

Here is the thing.  If you want to make your marriage work you need to put your husband and your marriage first.  Do you go on weekend trips with your husband?  Step back on planning your nieces birthdays.  
Do you want to lose your marriage because it is all about your family?  You need to decline a lot of the once a week things and focus on your husband and your marriage if you want to stay married.[/quote]

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