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[quote=Anonymous]OP,

As you can see from the myriad of responses, everyone has advice and much of it is conflicting.

I got divorced (after 25 yrs of marriage) at 53, dated for two years, and I am now in a relationship.  Here is what I wish I would have known when I first started dating again:

1.  Dating is all about meeting new women so that you can try each other out as possible romantic partners.  Try dating women that are outside you previously believed were not your "type" (i.e., consider dating women of a different race, religion, or age group then the group you have dated in the past.)  I dated a woman in her early 60s, and she was one of the most attractive, fun, and interesting woman I went out with and I am so glad I (and she) took the chance.

2.  For the first date, try keeping it light and brief (e.g., meeting for happy hour, a coffee, or a cocktail) in a public place.  If you are not hitting it off after a drink or two, you can go home with no harm and no foul.  If you are hitting off, you can stay a little longer to talk.  You do not want an extended date (e.g., a lunch or dinner date) with someone you do not know as waiting for it to end is hard for both of you.

3.  If you meet via OLD, then chat with her a few times and then either:  1) invite her to meet as outlined in #1 above; or 2) tell her that you do not think you two are a fit and move on.

4.  Do not take dating personally.  By that I mean if a woman decline a date, ghosts you in OLD, or flakes move on and focus on the successes (i.e., women you have enjoyed meeting) and the potential successes.  Trying to figure out why a woman might ghost you (if you have not done anything inappropriate) is a waste of time you should use finding someone you enjoy.

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You, and your kids, will be great and I wish you the very best.[/u][/quote]

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