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[quote=Anonymous]That’s tough.  My husband ended an affair.  He had put himself in therapy.  I happened to discover it after the fact.

He is doing everything, everything and more.  Zero contact with AP and never love- confirmed by therapists and me meeting her.

STILL- I can’t get over it.  I can’t understand the compartmentalization.  My mind does not work like that.  My ethics and morals don’t permit that.

If he weren’t truly and actively committed—two support groups, 3 therapy sessions, post nup, vasectomy, and taking over everything in the home I used to do- grocery shopping, making meals, driving carpool- we both work full time— I don’t see how I could even have him around.

I still can’t look at him at times as it’s very new.  But my mind forgets and the heart strings pull very hard.  It was a good life with a very long history and happiness.  I haven’t hugged, kissed or let him even share bedroom since.  We had a very active sex life during the entire affair so lack of physical comfort at the lowest point is very tough.  He would always be the one to comfort me and now I can’t go there until I see change for a significant amount of time.

It’s still tough.  Betrayal by the one that is supposed to protect you and love you unconditionally—-awful.

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