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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tyring to think what would get me off my tuckus to embrace change like this, with young kids.

Make doing things "together" the issue and the "things" are walking, swimming, hiking, etc.  Don't go to cardio and weight lifting yet.  Offer to get the kids ready, take them along, hire a sitter, or trade outdoor activity time for mommy down time.  
And talk about alcohol over use.
Can you prepare snacks and leave them around?  My kids will eat an apple if I cut it up, snow peas or snap peas if I wash them and leave then in a bowl, etc.
Does she see a family doctor?  Can you make an appt with teh same doctor and ask for help with this?  Dr. can make the focus blood pressure, diabetes, etc.

If she still won't try then you involve a marital therapist.[/quote]

Really?  
I would respond to my husband having actually done the work and research on what changes your weight set point and actually works, having the name of a counselor who deals with the mental issues surrounding weight loss, and having a plan on where to find the tome and money to make it happen.

If he just came to me with one more issue, and laid it at my feet to figure out how to make it happen, I would give a sincere attempt, but it likely wouldn’t last long.

I have found that my husband has responded the same way when I have wanted something from him.  Help with housekeeping, for example.  I didn’t “engage him in cleaning as a family.”  I had a plan for what I needed someone to do, how to find a good person, and how I was going to come up with the money to pay for it.  [/quote]

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