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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my dad died, it was so hard just handling everything. There’s a hundred things to do, and it was all emotionally and mentally exhausting.  And this was on top of my normal day to day responsibilities, with kids of my own to take care of. All the funeral and burial arrangements, going through his financials, figuring out how to sell his car after he died, figuring out how any of this all worked. It was a lot.

If a family member, who did not even come to the graveside service, also tasked me with going through all his belongings to find some “sentimental” items, and ship it out to them, I just would probably ignore the request also.  Especially if this was right after my dad passed away.  I might even be angry at that person.[/quote]

He did not want a service because he did not want his own family to have to make two cross country trips in a short amount of time. He had already gone through the financial stuff before going into the hospice house. He was an incredibly neat and tidy person who had already downsized most of his things so nobody would be drained doing this. If there is an extreme opposite of a hoarder then that would be him. They sounded relieved that I only wanted family photos. They could have found what they wanted to keep in a few hours and everything else was neat enough that it could be picked up for donation by an organization that has their own truck.

For any single person who ever has to consider moving, across country for a job, that is difficult for kids. I had to start flying back and forth, in elementary school and that is an all day trip. By the time, I had my own kids, we had to start sending him tickets to visit them. He had retired by then so he had the time to visit us. My dad was in a warm southern climate and that is where he wanted to stay after he retired. It was his choice but I always had to make more of an effort to visit with him. His own family decided they could only make one trip and we all decided that we would rather see him before rather than after. We appreciated that he had made an effort to make everything as simple as possible before he went into the hospice house. We also appreciated the steps who helped him do this.[/quote]

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