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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve learned the hard way when a close relative dies, if there is something of tremendous sentimental value, you go ASAP in person to get it.  ASAP.  Pictures, the family bible, some trinket, etc.  don’t ever expect anyone else, even if they are related to you, to set something aside for you, save it for you or send it to you.  Ever.

Death brings out the crazies in even relatively normal people.  You cannot predict how people respond.  So just because OP you feel like your step family “owes” it to you to retrieve the items you want (photos and papers), they clearly don’t.  And since you haven’t made alternative arrangements to get them, at this point you should consider the items gone.  They’ve probably been thrown away or someone else is keeping them for some unknown reason.  They may claim they can’t find it. Doesn’t matter.

Learn the lesson. I did when my grandmother died and I will never let it happen again.  When someone dies and there is something I consider precious that I want, I go myself immediately to get it (a family photo, cards, letters, etc.  I’m not talking items of huge monetary value but items that you can’t put a monetary value on because it’s sentimental).  [/quote]

+1000 Even if it is something small and of little value. [/quote]

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