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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am conflicted about a payment specifically for housework and child care to women. It’s great as an idea but implementing it is not easy. Some countries provide monetary support per child, other countries subsidize maternity leaves for parents. Economists are toying with the idea of universal income. To me these would be more palatable than paying women for housework. On one hand it returns housework back squarely to women as a duty and responsibility: “You get paid to cook and wipe butts”, on the other, how amounts be decided for women who stay at home vs those who work and still do a big chunk of housework and childcare, and 2 parent households who both work, what about grandparents and others? What about stay at home childless spouses? Do they also get paid something? I think it’s more straightforward to either provide support per child or just go for the universal income.[/quote]

But when one woman decides to work out of the home, some other woman IS paid to "cook and wipes butts" in her home. So why not she herself?[b] The worst line in that article was the author saying she worked out of the house and paid others to work in her house "out of a need to feel like a full human being." In other words, she viewed the women who worked in her house as less than full human beings. [/b]What a terrible person![/quote]

People say this alll the time on this website, with the same implication, and no one ever says boo about it in those wohm vs. sahm threads.

Y'all are a bunch of hypocrites.[/quote]

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ALL the time. It's considered socially acceptable for UMC white women to say these things out loud, which is really disgusting. And I say that as a white UMC woman with a graduate degree and a professional job. I think it stems from how dismissive Second Wave Feminists were to WOC and housewives back in the 70s-90s.

Perhaps that should change. [/quote]

PP who cleaned houses here. I don't have a problem with a sentiment that work outside the house can be rewarding, and that's what I see most often in the stupid DCUM mommy wars fight threads. I have a massive problem with the author's implication that her maids and nannies were not capable of a similar feeling. That is incredibly awful.

I think the author comes across as someone throwing a temper tantrum because she is facing actual hard work for the first time. Cry me a river.[/quote]

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