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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]...  He is also a cute child physically.  I hate it when people say "but he's so cute ...." as if it is wrong for me to feel exhausted and frustrated with his behavior.[/quote]

Yes, I get the same thing about DD.  It is ironic that many special needs children are very physically beautiful.  And we get lots of compliments.  But it's hard to just hear that and nothing else noticed about your child.[/quote]

It's hard to say whether people should or should not state the obvious -- because it depends on their intention, their relationship with you, their level of "right to speak" and the SN parent's personality.

Sometimes, for some people, the greatest gift you can give is just to acknowledge the sweetness or attractiveness or some other positive attribute of a child who is ALSO SN or something else, like an abused child, or a child struggling with something serious.  Because people are more than just the parts of us that stick out and make us "different" from the status quo.

Once at a staff training (I'm a teacher) the director took a moment to applaud one of our veteran teachers who had, upon returning from vacation to find one of her students with an enormous black eye, told him, "Good morning, so+so, look how tall you've grown since I last saw you."  We were all in tears, because it is a GIFT to be experienced by others as more than our disability or our injury or our abuse.  We, and our children, deserve to hear more than just how our difficulties and challenges are going.  And after a long stretch of fighting school admins over an incorrect IEP diagnosis, TRUST me, I appreciate someone casually, simply noting that my son is kind.  Or handsome.  Or good at making friends.[/quote]

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