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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're a really good mother who has tried to make it easy for your child to have a relationship with his son. Hats off to you for going so long with having just a verbal agreement and while $400 is pretty laughable I'm glad he's shown some sense of responsibility by paying child support without having to get legal.

What do you think the driving reasons are for this sudden attempt to get legal? Somehow trying to avoid child support? Do you suspect he plans to move? A sudden realization that he has no real relationship with his son and is trying to do what he thinks he can to make up for lost time? He disagrees with your parenting on some fundamental level and wants a say? With middle and high school on the way he wants a say in where your son goes to school?  Is bored self quarantining and wants a playmate on Sundays? Where is this coming from? [/quote]

He disagrees that our son has ADD (apparently) although he has never actually said this to me.  I read it in the complaint.  I have kept him up to date on all of the testing, therapy, doctor's appt.  He chose not to go to any.  If he ever brought up the idea of doing something different I would have been open to listening.  I want what is best for our son.  [/quote]

New poster. Sorry if this has been addressed but I can't read all of the thread now. Is it possible that the ex is making the "I don't believe son has ADD" the crux of his request? I'd be concerned that ex has developed some kind of anti-diagnosis bias, for lack of a better term, and for some reason has decided to get involved only to try to stymie therapy etc. I know a divorce situation where the father was dead set on believing the son did not have ADHD and fought mom over it constantly. The dad's take was that "my son is normal and perfectly fine and doesn't need useless interventions or meds!" Any chance, OP, that your ex has someone bending his ear lately about ADD not being "real" or something like that? [/quote]

Dad can always take child for a second opinion.  Mom wants more money, Dad wants more visitation and joint custody.  Its a fair trade off.  Mom's post, if it is real, makes no sense as she is living there so Dad can spend more time with his child so if she is in the same building for that reason then how is this a question.  Its a non issue.  So the issues are joint custody and child support.  You compromise.  Dad increases child support per the child support calculator or negotiate to lets say $650 a month from $400 and mom gives dad joint.[/quote]

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