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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ummm, this is awful and in such poor taste. She must know this and if not you must tell her she cannot do this! If you’re relying on gifts to have what you need then you’re not ready to be a parent. Get what you need@
- and anything else you get  is gravy. [/quote]

Since when do people buy only "nice to haves" for baby showers? Is this a rich person thing?

What happened to baby registries where people put in all kinds of stuff from diaper genies to bouncy chairs or whatever?  Are those things considered "gravy"? Those were must haves, IMO.[/quote]

DCUM [b]skews towards people with higher education and income[/b]. Most ppl having kids are much younger and less financially secure (ready or not to be parents) and they are counting on shower gifts.  Based on my experience with the sales person at BuyBuyBaby when I set up my registry back in Feb. bouncy chairs and diaper genies are what you put on the list. [/quote]

This isn't really about higher education or income. It's about class. Much of the time, education level and income is a pretty good indicator of class. However, I think we all know wealthy people who are trashy and poor people who have class.

Having a baby shower is a trashy thing to do. Period. If you can't afford to have kids, don't have kids. If you have friends/family who want to buy you gifts for your baby, that's great, but then they ask what they can give you to celebrate the occasion and you answer. You don't send around an "invitation" (or get someone to send it around) for people to give you gifts. And it's also trashy for someone else to throw you a shower (unless maybe it's a genuine surprise and people know that), but throwing YOURSELF a shower is beyond trashy.

I had no money when I started having children. I was gifted a couple of smaller items but we paid for the baby ourselves. If I knew that someone was planning to buy us something bigger then I would have politely insisted that they didn't need to do that. You know what we did? We bought what we needed (that does NOT include diaper genies and whatever else was on the "need" list in this thread!) and a couple of small wanted items and nothing else. And yes, we waited to have children until we were 30 and in a position to afford those things on our own, because our decision to have children should not be someone else's problem. [/quote]

Wow. You are a wackadoodle. I didn't have a bridal or baby shower because I don't like being the center of attention (or writing thank yous) but it's perfectly "classy" to have one. Frankly I can see why no one offered to throw you one, you sound like a miserable person with no friends.

Showers aren't just about gifts, they're about celebrating life's milestones with the circle of women who are important to you and support you through life's joys. What an awful way to view having a child if you think it's just about you. Normally mothers, sisters and friends are excited to celebrate with the bride or new mom. I know I do! I live picking out gifts and knowing they'll be a part of a new baby's life.

You're miserable. [/quote]

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