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[quote=Anonymous]So, just a few thoughts.

There are plenty of times when you will need extra clothes, onesies, bibs, etc that you may never need.  For example, when we had our kids in daycare, we always had to have at least one, sometimes 2/3 extra sets of clothes and an extra pair of shoes at daycare for the times that the child's clothes could not be saved (diaper explosions, spit up/food all over clothes, etc).  The problem is that at some points, the clothes would be used a lot, other times, the clothes would not be used for weeks and by the time they were needed, the child had outgrown that size or was close to outgrown.  We hated to get nicer/expensive clothes only to put them at daycare and have them not be used or only used once.  So we often bought clothes at consignment sales just to put at daycare.  Fine for changing for the last hour or two of the day on an emergency and we didn't care if the child never wore that outfit.  But we were required to have clothes and shoes there, so we put the second-hand stuff we didn't care about there.  When they outgrew the size, we handed things down, consigned them, or donated them.  But, would you really want to buy an expensive, nice outfit, put it at daycare and never have the child wear it or only wear it once before they outgrew it?

There are also times, as others have alluded to, when you are just so exhausted from a child that wakes up every 2-3 hours and won't let you sleep.  You don't get laundry done and your child has yet another accident or food all over their clothes and you have nothing clean left for them to wear.  No one thinks that will happen to them, but the vast majority of parents, especially new parents, will have that happen at least once.  Laundry, dishes, and housecleaning all becomes luxuries to do when you are fighting to find a time to shower, go to the bathroom and eat.  Sometimes raising an infant will feel like you are a prisoner of war undergoing sleep deprivation torture.  So, having some things in storage that are "just in case" for those emergencies is worthwhile.  If you never use them, great, when your child finally outgrows that size, you can donate the unused, unopened item and be so grateful that you never needed it.

If your child spends a significant amount of time at a relative's or friend's house, especially if you might leave the child there for a short time to run an errand, go to the doctor, etc, then having an extra set of clothes there, just like daycare, that you may never use, it not a bad thing.  You don't want to spend a lot of money on emergency clothing that may or may not ever get used before outgrown.

So, as long as you have some storage, I would accept them graciously, hope I never needed them, and wait until the child outgrew such things to donate them.  But, it was nice to know that in an emergency, they were there.[/quote]

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