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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Changing pad poster. I think there’s generally a lot of judging in baby gear purchases and I don’t think it’s far fetched that a woman who is just dropping off items (and loves to brag about a steal) might also fall in this camp. I mean hell, look at this thread. I got judged bc I cared about researching a changing pad.

You’re correct that I misread and it was a mattress pad. (Also, do I need one of those?)

I’m not saying at all that people who easily conceived their kids love them any less. Your conclusion here, I do think, is a stretch. [/quote]

You sound insecure because your friends had kids before you. Nobody is judging you by giving you a mattress pad. And yes, you need one unless you want that precious mattress you picked out to get soaked with spit up and pee. Rather than acting like a know it all, you might listen to your friends who have btdt once in a while. Motherhood will be quite the humbling experience for you.[/quote]

PP. Not sure where you’re reading insecurity. My friends were all in law/Med/biz school, so at 35 we’re actually the second of our friends to have kids. The other friend is an outlier in our group, so nope, no insecurity here.

And to me, a mattress pad is something you put on top of a mattress to make it more comfortable. That seemed contrary to all advice to keep stuff out of the crib. I think you’re talking about a mattress cover, of which I’ve already done some research. If you read my previous posts you’ll see I recommended that OP take the clothes and welcome advice of other moms. I said that has to be balanced with everyone’s desire to do things their own way with their own children. I’ve enlisted family for insight, watched more YouTub “newborn essentials/regrets” videos that I care to admit, and posted a few threads on DCUM seeking help. So while motherhood is humbling for us all, your concluding statement is frankly, hateful.

[quote] Yes, you need a mattress pad. Get one or a pack of two. Your baby may not spit up/throw up/blow out a lot so wait and see and you may need to buy more. We haven't needed them much but it's been nice to have one and a backup for when that one is in the wash. [/quote]

This is from a different poster, but thank you for the advice. [/quote]

Definitely get 2 waterproof mattress covers. My kid rarely spit up, never had a blow out, etc, but there was sooo much drool at various phases of life and she did get a vomiting illness twice during the crib years, and it's much better to be able to just pull the sheet and mattress cover up, wash off the big stuff in a sink and put straight into the laundry. I don't know how you'd clean a crib mattress, but it's not going to be that quick to be dry again unless it's made of plastic like the ones from the 1980's.[/quote]

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