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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, thanks and plus 1.  I mean, really, how could this dude be this dense.  I am tall, maybe a 7/10 attractive, slightly overweight, dress well, and chatty and I promise you I have been propositioned flat out at least a half dozen times over the [b]year. [/b] Like, not subtle: "so does this drink end in my hotel room?" invitation from a hotel bar while I am traveling.

And i have turned down almost all of them.   [color=red][b]I took up one when I was in a low point in my marriage.[/b][/color]  So sure, there is some correlation between men who cheat and men who are satisfied but there is also a lot with just having opportunities and there are plenty of them.[/quote]

Cool story bro. Man who travels a lot AND stays in hotels away from home AND dresses up AND flirts AND buys strange women drinks at bars AND is tall AND chatty AND attractive.... gets lifetime grand total of 6 propositions? Shocker: call CNN. What does this have to do with the pregnant-wife-now-husband-decides-to-cheat-scenario that OP is asking about in this thread?

Not sure if you were trying to disagree with me, but actually thanks for 100% validating the essential point that OP asked about: [b]an otherwise faithful married man cheats when he gets no sex at home[/b].[/quote]

Your zeal is clouding your reading cells.  He said half a dozen a year.  A year that isn't over yet. And this fits my own experiences as a woman traveling for work on a regular basis.

Plus, you don't really know why his marriage was at a low point.  There are all kinds of reasons for a marriage to hit a low point that do not involve no sex.  I mean you generally have little sex with someone who angers or irritates you, but the core reason doesn't have to be sex.

Oh, what does this have to do with the OP's scenario? Simple.  There are [b]opportunities to cheat that present themselves.[/b]  Many men will take advantage of them if there are no foreseeable consequences, and they have nothing at all to do with the state of the marriage.  It's just like...I can do this so why not?[/quote]

Your zeal to skip right over the 99% case (typical married man cheats BECAUSE OF infrequent sex at home) and derail the thread with outliers is amazing. PP's numbers are irrelevant. You really think OP was asking about gold club frequent fliers like PP who spend most of their lives away from home, dressed up, hanging out in hotel bars every night, buying drinks for receptive/unattached women, flirting ..... and then (shocker!) an occasional drunk woman is DTF? When a guy like that actually cheats... is anybody (even the wife at home) the least bit surprised? This isn't a normal marriage in the first place. This is NOT a case of an "opportunity to cheat that presents itself" your friend is OUT THERE WORKING IT, hitting the bars, buying drinks, flirting and HE MAKES the opportunity happen.

When a man makes statement like "low point in marriage" this means they were not having much sex (ergo, he cheats).[/quote]

LOL first you write a long-ass response based on "six opportunities in a lifetime", and now that you've been shown up, his numbers are irrelevant?

You really don't understand how this works (which leads me to believe that you either aren't married or have a super boring job).  This doesn't require a gold club anything.  I'm a married woman.  I travel for work a fair amount.  I go to conferences. The setup of business travel is such that you spend lots and lots of time with colleagues, clients, vendors, current and potential contacts. You talk, you work, you chat, you go to dinner (because one has to eat you know) and it's normal to do it in company.  Not a single business trip goes by where I don't feel at a certain point talking to a certain person that if I were to signal my willingness, we'd be in a hotel room in fifteen minutes.  No one's working anything.  I mean no one has to. It just happens, because you are in close contact all the time.  And if it were to happen, it would have very little to do with anyone's marriage and how much sex one is having at home.  It's just...an opportunity to pick a flower, nothing else.  Then both of us would go home and have amiable sex with our spouses.

You also don't understand the endless variability of humans - including why a husband might not want to have sex with his wife even though she'd be willing - boredom, fatigue, loss of attraction, etc. Are you even married?  Do you have any idea of what it's like to have sex with the same person over and over and over again?[/quote]

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