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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a dear friend who when in her early 30’s married a man in his late 40’s. By his mid-60’s he looked and acted very old and in his early 70’s he was physically in very poor shape and when he passed away in his mid-70’s he was basically an invalid. She was 60 at the time and from age 50 on she was taking care of a very old man. She truly loved him but it was so sad to see her, in the prime of her life, living a very lonely life. She is a very attractive, successful and fun woman who missed out on so much. [b]I’m sure they had 20 very good years together but is that enough?[/b] [/quote]

Average marriage lasts 8 years and you figure at least two of those years were crappy before the divorce, so she got over 3x that.[/quote]

10 years of sustained misery is a long time. I feel for her.[/quote]

If you are the PP who knew her, you did not say that [i]she[/i] was actually “miserable”. You were just looking at it from the outside. Maybe she was happy to be with him even in physical decline. She did have a choice in the matter, after all. Nobody forced her to stay with him for those final 10 years.[/quote]

I am  NP who posted the 10 year comment.  Just felt sorry to hear that about the lady.[/quote]

I'm the PP who has the friend written about above. She and I are the same age, as is my husband, and she really envied the life we have been able to lead when we became empty nesters and then retired. She truly loved him and cared for him but she has been very open with me about things she missed. She's been a widow for almost five years and is now traveling and getting out and is now talking about maybe finding a partner. In no way does she regret having married her late husband.[/quote]

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