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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Where did all the money from your bank account go? [/quote]

Stuff  :roll: [/quote]

So how much more "stuff" do you need? 
He's probably ticked you're wasting money on (more) frivolous stuff regardless of whether or not you/he has a 6-figure income.  Rich people are rich b/c they keep their spending in check. [/quote]

Oh please!  It has nothing to do with that. Like I said, it’s because he likes to see where the money is going plain and simple.  [/quote]

Lol your true colors are coming out OP.  It sounds like you have a spending problem and just spend DH's money however you want.  With the current economic situation, I don't blame your husband for trying to limit excessive spending.  I think there is a lot more to this story beyond "poor me.  My DH is so controlling".  I bet he has a very different side that may justify why he isn't just handing money over to you whenever you want. [/quote]

Let me put it another way. For the first few years I asked him for a monthly cash allowance. He would always tell me no, that I don’t need one, that I can use the credit cards for whatever I want.   So I said you would rather me charge 10k a month than give me a cash allowance of 5k? I told him that doesn’t make sense. . But after years I understand his motive. Keeping me cash poor makes him feel secure.  [/quote]

He's afraid of you building a nest egg and being able to leave him if you want to.

Or, like the other pp perfectly said, he doesn't trust you and knows you can't do things like book hotels for an affair by using his CC.

I also agree that you need to get this out in the open and find out WHY he doesn't trust you. 
Who cares if it causes a fight, at least you'll know where you truly stand with him. 
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Finally someone is understanding my situation!  I believe this is exactly what’s going on. It took me years to finally figure this out and why he does this but it’s becoming very clear now.  I’ve been telling him we need counseling and he finally agreed but Of course can’t right now. [/quote]

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