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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just pay it yourself and have the estate pay you back. Why aren’t you just using estate funds to do the repairs?[/quote]

My mother left each sibling $20,000 in cash plus the house to be sold. After giving each sibling their $20,000. it was understood that we’d each have to contribute $5,000. to fix the home prior to selling it. Somehow I’m guessing this sibling used up his $20,000. and doesn’t have any to give. The worse part for me is him refusing to even answer my calls or emails.

Now I can see why so many families fight and never speak to each other again. And you know what I did today? I spent it clearing out this home without help from this brother even though he fully knew we’d be working on the house. [/quote]

Is this behavior normal for him or is it uncharacteristic?  If it is normal, then I would just proceed with the repairs and your other siblings and you ante up his share (which you will get back upon sale of the house). Then, I would not make much of an effort to keep up with him in the future.  If this is uncharacteristic, I would assume he is going through something and is reacting to his situation. I would proceed with the repairs and you and your other siblings ante up his part which you will get back when you sell the house.  Then I would reach out to him six months.  Some people have very weird reactions to grief and it takes time for things to sort out.

You can’t change your brother, you can’t control your brother.  You can only change yourself and control your actions.  [/quote]

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