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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s kind of stupid to stop seeing your own child. Social distancing doesn’t mean you ditch your kid. 
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It does if you aren’t the sole provider and you’re still catching flights and running through hospitals making sales calls. Why risk it for a weekend dad day that will make the rest of the house sick while working from home and homeschooling during a 1 month closure? Yeah, no.[/quote]

Why have any contact with that attitude?   Just stop all visits and collect child support.   That is all some here think is necessary. [/quote]

Because the Court ordered it.[/quote]

Courts will not do much if you don't allow visitation.  They only care if child support is paid.  That's why we have offices to help get child support for free but no offices to help with visitation issues for free.  So, you can easily stop it and probably nothing will happen.

I think its sad its not about the kids.[/quote]

If people don’t pay child support, the state ends up covering that gap on the child’s needs. Which increases your taxes. Which I bet burns your biscuits and makes you vote for anti-woman, anti-child policies. But if John doesn’t see Johnny and Julie because he’s busy with his new family, it doesn’t impact your wallet. That’s why there are child support enforcement offices.

BTW, NCP who really need free help to get custody or visitation can go to Legal Aid clinics located right at the courthouse in many districts. [/quote]

The state does not cover that gap.  What are you talking about?  They will have consequences and enforcement for child support, but there is nothing for visitaiton via the child support office.  Legal aid doesn't help with NCP visitation and custody in most situations.  Have you ever tried to get help from them and you have to be very low income to get help.  We got it for a family member in one situation but when we went back for more help we were declined due to it they just didn't have enough staff.

Kids need both parents.  Having an involved father is not anti-woman or anti-kids and women have affairs, break up the marriages, abuse kids and spouses, etc.  Majority of cases in child welfare are female headed households.[/quote]

The state covers that gap through welfare other other social programs. Which is why they aggressively try to collect child support from the NCP when the CP goes on welfare. As you acknowledge, that’s usually women applying and men the state wants to pay.
Montgomery County’s legal aid has a big staff of volunteers, but they are very strict about income limits. [/quote]

How many CP's do you think are on welfare and other social programs?  Very few.  They aren't aggressive about it.  They try, but they have too many cases and not enough staff to be on top of it.  Legal aid's do not help fathers with child support and visitation.  Tried that.  You can say there is a lot of help, but there is none.  Most Dads who fight it either have the cash or go heavily into debt and if the CP doesn't comply, there are no consequences.  You can say there are but there aren't which is why a lot of Dad's have given up.[/quote]

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