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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is sad.  "You're 18.  Now get out my house" [/quote]

This is why divorce messes kids up. In intact families the parents continue to care about the kids and support them throughout college and beyond. Kids of divorce get parents who are willing to devote tens of thousands of dollars to lawyers so they can reduce child support by $100. It’s sad.

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Some intact families continue to care for the kids, others don't.  You are overgeneralizing.  Child support in most states stops at 18 or graduation of high school.  If you want continued help, then you need to deal with that parent and have a relationship with them.  An alienated parent should have to pay for college or anything past 18.  The custodial parent who alienated that parent should pay.[/quote]

+1. If you want the other parent to pay for life long things, don’t spend your life trash talking them. [/quote]

Thanks for making my point!

You’re setting conditions on being a parent to your kid, and looking for the way to spend the least amount of money. You’ve checked out of the parenting relationship.

Intact families look for ways to support the children. Yes, even when they’re teens and they’re pulling away and thus not emotionally fulfilling my every parental fantasy.

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After divorce and child support and alimony, not everyone can afford to continue to pay child support and college.  After divorce, some states only use the custodial parent's income for calculations so kids get heavy financial aid.  Some kids by 18, terminate the relationship. If you choose not to have a relationship with your parent, you don't deserve to continue to be supported.  I cannot imagine my husband's ex gave a dime to the kids post 18 despite continued child support to her for college.  There are so many situations and you are making it fit your individual views without considering many factors.  There is a difference from pulling away and kids will not speak or see the other parent.

If our kids terminate their relationship with us or don't live by our rules, as an intact family we will not pay for college.  They understand its based off good grades (to the best of their ability), our relationship, their behavior and more.

Most parents cannot afford to help with college divorced or intact.  [/quote]

I'm divorced and a single mom and my kids are financially better off than yours. Intact or no. You jerk. [/quote]

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