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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When we had kids, DW became a SAHM and our discussion was always that she’d return to the workforce at some point.  It’s now 15 years later, kids are in high school, and she is working part-time.  I just did our taxes and she only earned $18k last year - I am a GS-15 so by no means a rainmaker.  We are behind on savings, college 529, etc and I’m tired of having to agonize over every financial decision because our finances are so precarious.  DW has a Masters and could be making $60-70K full time but doesn’t want to - she has many stay at home friends who are married to rainmakers, but that’s not me.  I told her tonight that I’m at my wits end and she needs to step up.  She doesn’t want to work full time - neither do I but I suck it up for the family.  I’m very frustrated and can’t get DW to pick up the slack.  I am very involved at home and with the kids so she has supper there.  How can I make her understand that we can’t always get what we want?!?[/quote]

Women should realize that you cannot become a SAHM with a low earning spouse and be happy. Even with two working spouses, people are struggling to meet ends. It is also worthwhile to make a decision to not have kids or have only 1 kid if you cannot live frugally. Yesterday there was a divorced woman on DCUM who was very happy that she only had one kid.  That may be the way to go for low earners...[/quote]

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