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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I don’t know if coddling is what’s wrong. I was a highly anxious teen in the 80s, but I was forced more into situations like placing an order over the phone (for food or from a catalog), now replaced by apps or online, answering the house phone so being forced to interact, paying the paper delivery person when they came to the door - there’s much less natural exposure therapy. And as adults because of the internet we’re modeling less interaction with others - I text with friends and family, so my son doesn’t hear me having phone conversations, or calling places to see what the hours are, I email companies if I have a question about a bill instead of calling. I still needed therapy for my anxiety, but I was able to function better then because I had to than I think I could do now.[/b] [/quote]
NP. This is an excellent point. Phones and apps and self-service retail are gradually wearing away human interactions that were commonplace just for daily life. The current generation of teens is going to be maybe the first that never or vary rarely has to interact for things like shopping (even most grocery stores now have more and more self-service checkouts), buying gas (when was the last time anyone had to talk to a pump attendant unless you were buying gas in New Jersey?), etc.

OP, was her fear about buying GS cookies more about the interactions or about feeling overwhelmed by choices of cookies or--something else like not liking responsibility for money? My own very-much-not-anxious DD can still be slightly nervous if handed what she sees as a "lot" of cash and told it's hers to spend.

Or is it possible that something else entirely was upsetting your DD at that moment and the upset over cookies was just how an unrelated worry manifested?[/quote]
+2 to all this, especially the bolded.[/quote]

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