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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the comparison is not okay. I am widow and devastated as are my children. I know you are hurting but don’t minimize other people’s suffering. My husband is dead, if he had only cheated on me, at least my kids would have a dad. And by the way, the sympathy and kindness lasts about 5 months. [/quote]

Yes, but at least you got five months of sympathy and kindness. Divorced moms get social isolation - and so do their kids. It's cruel and traumatizing. And cheating dads are not great dads to their kids. Their kids grow up with a lot of problems without understanding healthy relationships. Their outcomes are worse than kids who lose a parent.

It's all awful, but OP has made a very valid and sad point. Her pain isn't all about you.

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She could have made her point without minimizing the suffering of widows.

Do you have any evidence to support your theory that outcomes are worse for kids with living parents?[/quote]

My dad died when I was a baby in a car accident. I think not having a father at all ever is a lot worse than the temporary awkwardness and hurt around feeling like your dad chose to leave your mom. Lot’s of dads cheat and leave their wife but are still good fathers despite being shitty people in a significant way. [/quote]

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