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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend got divorced 2 years ago her kids are teenagers. All have chosen to live with their father because he lets them drink alcohol and has no rules. She hasn’t seen her children in over a year. I wouldn’t blame her 1 bit for leaving. Her kids abandoned her.[/quote]

Yes.  As the OP described her, I don't see a selfish woman  who abandoned her children. I see a heartbroken mother trying to get over her pain by starting an entirely new life.[/quote]

[b]DH may be a manipulative A-hole (cap.) and this woman is just trying to get through what he did to her, on day at a time.  You sur are a shitstirrer, OP.  May this come back and bite you, ten fold. You truly do NOT know someone until you live with them. [/b][/quote]

OP here.  Not a sh*t stirrer at all.  I just happened to meet a woman from the DC area who told me almost right away and very matter of factly that her two kids in high school wanted to live with their father so she agreed and packed up and moved to Central America with no definite plan when to see her kids again.  She didn't have a bad word to say about the ex so I find it pretty interesting that so many posters are so quick to pin her decision on him.  She didn't get divorced yesterday -- she gave up the kids yesterday.  And she's not exactly hiding this her situation or is in witness protection -- she told me, a perfect stranger, what she's doing here (she's renting a very nice apartment), where she's from in the DC area, even where her kids go to high school -- so I'm not "outing" her either.

[b]I[/b] remain convinced that posters are giving her a pass because she's a woman.     [b]

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No, but it may seem that way to you because we're so put off by your bizzare behavior. Who spends their vacation running to an anonymous forum to gossip about a stranger like this?? [/quote]

A miserable old hag, that's who. [/quote]

OP, what makes you think you know the entire story, at all?  [b]Maybe she realized she already said too much to the wrong person, and is withholding further details deliberately.  Friendly people aren't stupid, but you are from the D.C. area, so you think they are.  She is smart enough not to tell you the whole story, and for good reason, as you have proved.[/b]

You don't get to tell her story, because you are not her, and you have not been through what she has been through.  Do you think she enjoys having given up the children she birthed?  I know men who look perfect on the outside like what D.C. area women would consider "a good catch" - but you know what? They are miserable, abusive narcissists with mommy issues behind closed doors, and they refuse to get help - probably much like you.

You need to grow up and shut your big mouth. You sound like you are getting some kind of sick joy out of this, you sound seriously sick in the head. [/quote]

I hate to break it to you, but you've gotten the dynamic completely wrong.  I had no interest in talking with her at all, even before knowing her story, and only engaged with her because the bartender (who I know from previous visits) insisted on introducing her to me from across the because he knew I was from the same area in the states.  I politely engaged ("oh yea, what a coincidence?" "how's your Spanish?" "how did you end up moving here of all places?") at which point she quite freely and happily told me her story.  She was so glib about it that it left me a little speechless, and at that point I really didn't want to know more -- I deliberately turned my attention back to the friendly bartender and that was that.  Whatever minimal interest I had in engaging with her went right out the door.

Yes, it's true that there also are men here who have done similar things.  I've met them.  But I honestly haven't met any who've told me what she did right after meeting and who weren't at least a little sheepish about it.

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