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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It seems like this only works if older women are expected to take on more free labor and women have babies younger so their moms can care for them.  No thank you.  Yes life would be great with free childcare, cooking, and cleaning but I would never want my mom burdened with that in the joyous years of her retirement where for the first time ever she can prioritize her own needs and desired. And I’d also never want my still working mil to give up her fulfilling career to wipe bottoms. Why are the older women whose expense this model comes at ignored or just assumed to be so #grateful to still have to spend their time doing domestic labor[/quote]

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Everyone who is bellyaching about this and itching to go back to the 50s or earlier needs to ask themselves: are YOU willing to provide full time childcare to your grand kids? Probably not.[/quote]

I am an Ivy League graduate with a good career and I *absolutely* hope and expect to retire by 55 or 60 and provide childcare for my kids. I am Asian, we believe in the pay it forward model. The early years are such a grind, especially for working parents. For me, having my parents around to supervise nannies, or provide dinner help or early morning help during a busy period at work, has been such a blessing. If we didn’t have that, DH and I would have struggled a lot to juggle everything ourselves, or else I would have quit and been unhappy about it.

So yeah, when my kids have kids, I will absolutely be there to help if they’ll let me. I have to do *something* during retirement and I can’t think of anything I’d like to do more than ease some of the burden for my kids while spending with sweet grandkids![/quote]

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