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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Being a SAHM means you’re going to be doing the bulk of childcare, cleaning and cooking.  The exception is if you’re wealthy and can outsource all of this.  I mean insanely wealthy with live in staff.  Weekly cleaners still mean there is cleaning work for the SAHM like cleaning after meals and kids playing.

Most women aren’t interested in being a man’s maid, cook and nanny so they go to work.  It’s a better arrangement.  You get paid money too.

If you’re a SAHM and you expect your husband to pitch in at home a lot well then you’re not doing your job.  He will think you’re a joke.  You don’t work and you STILL can’t manage everything at home??[/quote]

You need to meet better men.  [/quote]

C’mon.  What are you even doing if you stay at home and don’t handle most stuff at home?  A woman stays home to spend more time with kids, not pay for childcare, not burden the higher earning spouse with chores, etc.  It is terrible to admit but a woman stays home to benefit everyone else.

[b]You’re insane if you think your husband should be the sole breadwinner and then come home and split chores with you. [/b] [/quote]

Huh? That is exactly what we do in our family. I only stayed home to be with my kids. Chores are unrelated to job/school status in our family. Everyone helps.

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We outsourced chores. We did not outsource childcare. I am a highly educated ( double masters) sahm with tons of certification. My kids benefit by having me as their support, tutor and advisor at home. Chores are low value stuff. Taking care of the kids and guiding them is high value stuff.  I am the planner and organizer in the family.

Kids are thriving with no behaviour problems. They are high achievers at school.  House is running well because I can manage the  people who are responsible for the chores.  DH is doing well and out marriage is strong because there is very few stressors.

I have no desire to spend any of my time working for some one else..I am willing to give all my talents and education to my kids. Maybe when they leave for college, I'll go and get a job. For now, I am valuable at home and I want to give my time, love and  education to my kids. [/quote]

That's great. YOu realize  good hunk of this is luck, right? (Not snarky, serious question).
What is snarky" Guessing you only have 2 kids. In my experience the people with 2 or fewer have outsized perceptions of what their impact on their children is when those children are "Good."[/quote]

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