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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, the teacher and your child have a personality conflict. The problem is it is making your child hate learning, which is terrible! Pull him out and put him in a Montessori setting for a few years. He might be a bit behind in Montessori but he will catch up and learn the organization skills in the process.

The teacher sounds unskilled if she can't deal with a child who rolls their eyes. That is 1st year idiocy. When I was in teacher training my mentor teacher and I fought because she put a young man in the lowest spelling group to teach him a lesson because she called him sloppy
 He had tested high in all his tests but she didn't like him because she found him disruptive and he rushed that his work
 So teachers can be vindici to students they don't like
 Unfortunately your son has such a teacher.
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It doesn't make sense to just pull him out without looking further. OP, have you had a conversation with him? Not about how his behavior isn't good, but more gentle and trying to get at why he chooses not to do what his teacher and other kids do. I think you have to listen to him whenever he is willing to talk (2nd graders sometimes are not in the mood, esp. after coming home from school). I think it would help to know exactly what he thinks about it, and may point to where the problem is (perhaps it is truly a personality conflict with his teacher as PP mentioned, but it may also not be that at all). If the teacher feels he's not putting in any effort, she is right in reserving more advanced material unless he can prove that he is truly bored. If you can convince (not force) through a discussion with him what the teacher expects, and listen for how he responds and whether he agrees with you that he should improve, etc. For example, my 2nd grader is very expressive and honest but if he feels he was wronged in some way, he'll shut off and almost hold a grudge unless I sit him down and calmly explain things logically from both sides. When I do that he feels better and agrees with me. You may also get a better idea of how other kids are doing in class as well when he talks to you. Sometimes they're in the mood to talk what happens with other kids, etc, down to the details if you catch him at the right time.

I think he should understand that he needs to show his teacher that he can easily handle whatever work he is skipping. But if he doesn't (or he tries and his teacher refuses to accept giving him something more), you'll have to work with him at home a few times during the week. As an experiment, you can try emulating the teacher (give him some work, maybe mix in some challenging stuff) and see if he follows your directions (in terms of doing it), and how well he does overall. You're looking to see if he behaves the same way as school, or if he's fine and listens and does the work. That may also point to a personality conflict, or some other dynamic that only happens during class.[/quote]

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