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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your husband sounds like quite the pampered prince, OP.  Never troubled by the realities of having kids (although I’m sure the family photo is a nice accessory on his desk), everyone else runs their lives around getting the five weeks of vacation he “needs” to relax from his job. [/quote]

Not OP, but have a very similar situation.  It's not about being a pampered prince, it's about making concessions for the main bread winner to do their job.  My husband works 6 days a week. [b]It is far more important for him to be able to work until 7pm at night then telling his clients who urgently need him that he can't help them because my daughter needs to go to ballet class or swim lesson[/b].  We have a great life but I shoulder the responsibilities for our DD, the house, errands, groceries, etc...  I work 12 hours a week and I do need flexibility.

Advice to OP, keep the 5 hour a week gig.  Find something else that you want to do.  I want to start a non profit that donates gently used children's books to underserved communities.  Find something with people, pets, environment, etc... that feeds your soul.  If you chose to do something, you can choose when, where, etc... [/quote]

Far more important to whom?  I doubt this is what your daughter would say.  Both of my parents worked full time and my husband and I both do as well.  But I knew and my kids know that they are more important than our jobs, despite the fact that we both have pretty high-powered careers and earn a lot of money and have clients facing billion dollar issues.  This is just sad, PP.  I hope you can see that.[/quote]

I am the PP. My daughter is well loved and cared for by BOTH of us. Family is first but who is or who isn’t driving her to tap or swim class doesn’t define her self esteem or how much one parent does or doesn’t love her. Nice try![/quote]

OK, whatever makes you feel better.  You kid DOES notice who is driving her to tap or swim class.  But keep telling yourself she doesn't.[/quote]

Not PP but this is just so ridiculous. You aren’t less of a parent if you carpool or hire a nanny to shuffle a kid to an activity, give me a break. Good parents make the time to connect with their kids but that can be in the morning over pancakes rather than at breakfast, or coaching Saturday morning football rather than joining the kid for weeknight dinner.  And yes, those connections can be made even when one or both parents have a high powered job requiring later hours or travel etc. It’s a team effort and a balancing act but it can work.[/quote]

Read the PP.  This dad works until 7 pm every single night.  And he works 6 days a week.  You tell me when he's spending quality time with his kid.  Also, she said it's "FAR MORE IMPORTANT" that he handle his clients than be there for his daughter.  Her whole post was just gross.  Her kid knows where she stands with her dad and I think PP is deluding herself if she thinks otherwise. [/quote]

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