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[quote=Anonymous]Mom, B, Dad C- mostly because my mom was the one that pushed for me to get an education (she dropped out of HS) even though she and my dad could not help me, she knew it would get me out of the cycle of the type of labor intensive work that her and my dad did day in and day out.

My dad was and still is a functioning alcoholic who used to leave me and my sister in the car while he went in the bar for a drink.  He never made us wear a seat belt, and my mom says he never changed a diaper.  He would crack open a beer when he drove us to and from sporting events and school for things like band practice.  There was always a cold beer in the cup holder and a back seat full of empty cans... I thought all of this was normal behavior as a kid.  He wasn't abusive but never ever handled his emotions or coped with his stress, he just drank his worries away.  He's also very racist and my mom was just an enabler to this drinking.  Both parents had gambling issues at various times and were not very fiscally responsible.  They are both smokers too and I point that out only because there was a lot of "do as I say not as I do" growing up.  My dad does have good qualities, I think he's loyal, maybe even to a fault, and he works hard, but it's hard to make up for the other bad examples my parents set, in general.  My mom is a great grandmother, so I give her an A in that category.  My parents divorced years ago and my mom is much happier now, meanwhile my dad has spiraled farther and it makes me realize that although an enabler, it was also my mom that kept our family together for so long.

To their defense though my grand parents were worse with money and went bankrupt when I was a kid, losing everything including the land our house was on.  In some ways I understand why my dad drank.  Maybe it was the best they could do.[/quote]

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